Behind many instances of women abused in childbirth is their provider’s fear of naturally unfolding birth, and their fear of being unnecessary. Abuse is about control. Simply, it’s boundary violation. Unnecessary c-sections – risky, life-changing surgery on a woman’s womb – are a huge boundary violation. But the way providers go about them, calling themContinue reading “When Providers Fear Birth”
So much emotional trauma can be prevented even AFTER a woman or client has been physically traumatized during labor or birth. Ideally, you can prevent trauma during birth with compassionate and evidence-based care, but if a woman seeks your assistance and services after she has been traumatized by another provider’s harm or poor care, youContinue reading “Providers: Quick Guide On What Not to Say to Previously Traumatized Clients”
You’re pregnant, and you want to hire a doula. You know they can provide great support to pregnant moms during prenatal care, labor, birth, and even postpartum. But… perhaps you’ve heard of the great doula debate: some doulas will advocate for you while you’re in labor, and some, well, not so much. That might beContinue reading “10 Questions To Ask Before You Hire a Doula”
It’s strange how no breeze ever reminded me of my c-section.
In our culture, somehow, stories of birth are not celebrated. The consequences are dire.
We have been blamed and gaslit for so long, that we have to ask permission for people not to touch us when we don’t want to be touched.
Every birth is once-in-a-lifetime.
In reality, if your OB wants to c-section you, they will. No amount of preparation can combat the power differential.
Dismissing trauma is re-traumatizing. With c-sections in particular, people seem overly eager to smooth over the wound.